Friends the life teaches you a lot. Some philosophers even say that the purpose of life is to learn and to get lessons. It is also said very commonly that all problems come in life to give you a lesson. The faster we learn from life situations, the faster we move ahead in life. What we learn in past becomes our wisdom and we use this wisdom to lead a better life in future. Every new day teaches us lessons for next day.
The successful people in this world keep learning lessons from their past and present and keep moving I ahead in future.
I am a business coach and I not only learn lessons from my own life but also, I learn a lot from the lives of my clients. All the lessons learnt in life are important, and it is difficult to say which is more important than other. So, I am going to share some important lessons of my life with you today.
Life is all about people: Friends one of the most important lesson I learn is that people are especially important. Life is all around people and life is all about dealing with people. You are an individual yourself and around you, there are people, you are working for people, you are succeeding for people, you are happy for people, you are sad for people, you want to grow for people, you want to do something for people and you want to create future for people. So, in life, people around you are particularly important.
If you really want to achieve something in life it is important that you, you constantly work on your people skills and relationship. This is important to understand who you are at the same time it is especially important to understand who you related with. Good relationship with people in your life, work for you as fuel of your life vehicle.
Relate with people by serving them: Lets us now understand how you can build strong relationship with people. With my experience as Sales Trainer and as a business coach, I would like to share that there are two fundamental ways of building relationship with people. First and most important is to serve them. Serve people around you as much as you can, give them as much as you can and give them without expecting anything in return. I have seen people do give a lot to other people to serve but they expect something in return. But if they do not get what they expect they stop serving or they start blaming. And when you start doing this the relationship starts getting disturbed. Other people, who you are serving and giving, have their own limitations and other people have their own life situations. Also, they have their own unique understanding and temperament. Therefore, depending upon their life situation, they may give you back or they may not give you back, or they may decide to give you back later. Do not expect anything in return of your service. If you follow this advice for long enough and consistently throughout your life you will find that you have developed relationship which is extraordinarily strong and sustainable. And these people who you have been serving will come forward and support you in the need. Such relationship become the most important foundation of your life.
Understand people: Now as business growth Consultant I share another experience of mine. The second most important thing about people I found is that, never take them on the face value. Because everyone has two things to communicate. One what they are communicating and the another what they a really want to communicate.
So, what does it mean, I am sure you understand what I am trying to say? People don’t say and communicate what is hidden inside, rather people say what they think the other person wants to listen. So, if you simply listen to their words which are coming out of their lips and do not analyze then you may get mistaken. And most of the time this mistake may become awfully expensive. Therefore, go deeper while you are communicating with the people. Listen to them intently, question them and understand them patiently. Let them speak and let their real thought come from the deep within. As a sales coach and business growth consultant, I have seen this happening again and again when I interact with my clients. I have found that the client wants to say something from deep within whereas what is coming out from the lips is very sugar-coated and pleasant. This not only happens with me as a sales coach, but people do it again and again almost in all situations. Therefore, being an exceptionally good listener is particularly important.
Don’t blame people, take 100% responsibility: Another important thing I have learnt is that you must become 100% responsible for your life. You may not have control on your birth, you may not have control on certain situations but what do you do with life is completely in your control and that is why people have emerged winners even from very diverse situations. You have something in your control always. Either you are creating the situation, or you are responding to the situation. In both the cases you are controlling, you are sitting at the driver’s seat.
But most of the people do not take this stand. They behave like victims of the situation and they start blaming the people around them. Blaming people around you do not serve any purpose it only harms you and spoils your relationship with important people in your life. So, in the end you are the loser. So, if you want a happy and good life it is important that you take 100% responsibility of your life and behave like Victor rather than Victim. Even if you are not happy with some person’s behavior in your life you cannot change his behavior by blaming but yes you can change your behavior to influence the other person’s behavior. Therefore, take control be 100% responsible. You will find the life is much happier and better.
About the Author –
Author, Rakesh Sharma is one of the best business coach in India. He is a business growth consultant . He is a sales coach in India. he has coached hundreds of clients. As Sales Trainer in India he has trained coached and trained thousands of trainees across country. He is the best business coach in NCR and Sales Consultant in NCR.
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